Seeking Sanctuary At Work
You might be there physically, but you aren’t there mentally. At this point work is like painstaking clockwork – you mind and heart just is not invented in what is going on. Obviously, a good workplace needs its workers to be actively performing as opposed to drifting through the office aimlessly.
If you feel like you do not want to be there it could be because of the tension in the atmosphere. It can feel as though you are suffocating. Tension arises for many reasons, in most cases, it is because of an ongoing, passive-aggressive conflict. Conflict is not a one-party affair, it really does take two (or more).
The dynamic in each workplace is different wherever you go, but it well typically involve the provocation of person and the reaction of another. If it is someone with seniority who misuses their authority or a colleague that constantly sabotages those around them.
Tension will create an atmosphere of distrust and paranoia, which will in turn cause miscommunication. A breakdown in communication is a damning point as it will only escalate what is going on. Not having a voice in your office is detrimental to you. How can you solve a problem if you cannot address it?
Eventually, this will all lead confrontation, which would not necessarily end the conflict – this is just a blowout. This does not need to be loud, aggressive or physical, but it can set things up to become a string of events.
Small grievances now become overblown and there is little to us company morale. This removes the motivation you had to work. Toxic persons work to feed off of you, that is why it feels too draining to be around them. More often than not, you will see them exhibiting passive-aggressive behavior that starts small but escalates. The best thing to do is nip it in the bud.
Toxic colleagues are characterized by their backhanded compliments, manipulative behavior and duplicity. Sometimes they do not see themselves as the one causing trouble. If that is the case, how do you know if you or someone you know is toxic in the office?
For starters, a generally negative attitude is consistently present and not necessarily caused by work. This set the base for other disruptive behaviors, like missing deadlines, and finding excuses. Blaming other factors, external or internal, is another way to shift accountability around so that these are not truly at fault. It is not easy to come to terms with this because they are disassociation.
A compulsion to complain about work, environment and stress is another strong indicator. It is not enough to avoid a toxic person, nor ignore if you are the toxic person. If you think you are part of the problem then evaluating your own behavior and attitude, looking for the root of the problem will help you in the long run.